Risky Pleasure of Thrill Sex
Thrill sex can be defined as sex performed in places where its participants run the risk of getting caught, and enjoy it purely for the risk.
Risky Pleasure of Thrill Sex
Have you ever had a ‘spur of the moment’ overwhelming desire to rip off your partner’s clothes in a public place and screw them in full view of everyone? Of course you have, but you never actually did it. Today, though, more and more people are getting hooked into ‘thrill sex’
Thrill sex can be defined as sex performed in places where its participants run the risk of getting caught, and enjoy it purely for the risk. Locations vary in creativity and difficulty. They include public buses, restrooms, cars, offices, airplanes, parking lots, sport stadiums, hiking trails, dorm showers, classrooms and parks -- basically, anywhere not inside private homes and not exactly in the public spotlight.
At ASU, a campus teeming with tens of thousands of young, beautiful people and just as many dark corners, officials say thrill sex is a part of everyday activity. Stewart Adams says he caught hundreds of couples in the act when he was a patrolman for the ASU Department of Public Safety.
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In twenty years patrolling campus, Stewart says students had sex in the most elaborate places. The 50-yard line of Sun Devil Stadium, the pitcher's mound at Packard Stadium, the rubber mats below the high-jump in Sun Angel Stadium, and on the lawn between the Farmer and Payne education buildings.
Chelsey Spicer, a secondary education in biology sophomore, says she has had thrill sex in classrooms, a park, a convenience store freezer and a bathroom in Subway. She says the most thrilling place she had thrill sex was on a catwalk in the theater of her high school.
"The idea of getting caught is fascinating," says the short brunette. "It makes your heart pump faster and you're emotions are higher. You either like it or you don't. It either gets you pumped up or it doesn't. For some people, enjoying sex takes something extra, and for me, that’s thrill sex."
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Sgt. Dan Masters, a spokesman for the Tempe Police Department, says most of the couples caught in Tempe are found in cars or on rooftops. In June 2003, a 22-year-old Tucson woman and a 27-year-old Scottsdale man were caught having sex on the lawn in front of Tempe City Hall. According to the police report, a crowd of seven people gathered to watch.
While police arrested the couple on charges of public sexual indecency, most people caught having thrill sex are not punished for it. Basically, if someone witnesses indecent exposure, which could include thrill sex, and is offended by it, the offence could turn into an arrest and it's the threat of arrest and getting caught that fuels thrill sex.
Lee Spencer, an ASU psychology professor specialising in human sexuality, says fear and sexual arousal are closely related and oftentimes, people mislabel what they are feeling, experiencing similar physiological reactions, including an increased heartbeat, faster pulse and raised blood pressure. Spencer says the thought of getting caught is a turn-on for some people.
"By definition, really getting off on doing something that is risky and dangerous really does put you in a category of things you may not want to find yourself attracted to," she says. "The truth is, everybody needs to be very careful about what makes their arousal patterns. Once they establish arousal patterns, it can be hard to stop."
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Kathleen Todd, a certified social worker and sex therapist in Tempe, says thrill sex could become a destructive practice.The same reason alcoholics drink is the same reason some people have thrill sex, she says. Todd says she advises couples on how to enhance their sex lives, but that would never include true thrill sex.
"I would not recommend it," she says. "The thrill part of sex behaviour that spices up a sex life might be having sex when your parents in another room and you're a married couple. That's pushing the limit a little bit. That's more spicing up the sex life."
While the term "thrill sex" is new, the practice is not. In 1998, an undercover Beverly Hills police officer arrested famous pop singer George Michael -- whose songs include, "I Want Your Sex" and "Faith -- for engaging in a lewd act in a park restroom. Michael was sentenced to pay an $810 fine and serve 80 hours of community service.
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The 1982 book ‘How to Have Sex in Public Without Getting Caught’, was simply a collection of illustrations of couple's having sex in public, and meant to be a joke, but many might well have taken it seriously. "Lovers Caught on Tape, Vol. I," shows dozens of couples unknowingly caught on camera, including couples having sex in ballparks, restaurants, offices and parking lots. Movie reviewers describe the video as more thrilling than regular pornography.
"There's something special about watching real people, instead of actors who are obviously pretending to enjoy themselves," one person writes.
While the existence of thrill sex may not be news to some people, others are stunned to learn it exists on such a large scale. A lot of people wouldn't want to admit that stuff goes on, or that they would ever do anything like that. Perhaps you are one of those people, but are you being totally honest with yourself?
When sex is just not giving you the same buzz that it once did, then maybe you need to consider the adrenaline rush of going for it in a place where someone just might see you. If that doesn’t make the sexual experience thrilling, then it is hard to know what would. You could be opening a whole new chapter in your life, just by being willing to go for it the one time. Is it not worth the risk?