Peace Matters: Passage 3 & 4

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This is a series on Peace Matters: Teaching the Language of Peace to the World. The primer introduces the basic principles of the Language of Peace or Nonviolent Communication (NVC). It also show how we underestimate ourselves, and how we might be greater than we are...by learning to connect with our hearts.

You are Magnificent!

You may not know this, but as a member of the human race, you are magnificent. Really! Oh, you may doubt it, but let me tell you a story.
I once heard Mark Victor Hansen speak. He is the co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul. Mark was contacted by Make a Wish Foundation, which provides terminally-ill children with a last wish. An eleven-year-old girl who had leukemia wanted to attend one of Mark’s seminars. Thrilled to be of service, he sent off complimentary tickets to her and her family.
The day arrived, and he introduced her to the audience. Suddenly inspired, he asked the participants to raise their hands and send her loving, healing thoughts for a minute. Everyone complied, and then the session began.
Four days later, he received an email from the little girl. She was in COMPLETE remission! Imagine the power of that…
I believe you would have been one of those people who stood up and raised your hands and sent that girl love. This is your magnificence. It’s that simple – your goodness is your magnificence!

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field.
I'll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass
the world is too full to talk about.

~ Rumi

Teaching Peace

I was teaching the Language of Peace to a group of educators in graduate school. At the time, I was seriously injured and in a tremendous amount of pain. I could not sit, stand or walk, so my friends drove me there, lying on my back in the bed of the van. One day I forgot my cane and the class location had been changed, so I had to walk 200 feet further! I flopped onto the floor in utter agony as the students came into class.
Our first activity was to check-in. One by one, the students expressed their present feeling and current need – met or unmet. This helped to bring us all together in the present moment.
I started the check-in: “I hurt a lot, and I want to be present with you. My request is that you are aware of this, and that you do not take my tone of voice personally. I am in pain.”
Leah, my co-facilitator, asked if I would like empathy. (Offering empathy is a good way to connect with someone who is experiencing emotional discomfort.)
“Are you experiencing a lot of pain, and you need relief?” Leah asked. I nodded yes, and took a deep breath.
“Are you frustrated because you really want to be present with your students and to teach?” Leah questioned. My eyes filled up with tears as I nodded.
Leah inquired further, “I’m wondering if you might be feeling despair because the Language of Peace is so important to you and you want to do the best you can…”
Bingo! In that moment, something within me was seen and acknowledged. The tears receded. I felt myself shift into feeling centered again, and I could continue with the class. That’s how empathy works. It’s magical.
At the end of class, we were checking-out (the tail end of checking-in) and I spoke last. In that moment I suddenly realized that during the two hours of class, I had no pain! This was stunning – for me and for the whole class. Imagine…by simply giving me empathy my friend and the class had created a space for me to experience relief. It was so wonderful for me to be so supported and so free of pain.
This, too, is our goodness: that we can touch the heart and soul of someone in agony… that we can positively impact another person’s well-being by simply listening, understanding and accepting.
The key to doing this is to be conscious about our language.

To listen a soul into disclosure and discovery
is the greatest service one human being can do for another. ~
Quaker saying

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Chicken Soup For The Soul, Language Of Peace, Mark Victor Hansen, Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication, Peace Matters, Peace Of The World

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author avatar Life Matters
Author of Peace Matters book and website (recently destroyed by hackers) offering 20 free lessons in the Language of Peace to the World. Holistic Healer, Educator, Biofeedback Practitioner

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author avatar writestuff
26th May 2015 (#)

An inspiring and thought provoking article. Thanks for sharing your experiences and informed knowledge. Metaphysically your works can not be destroyed as they were only gifts given for a season. I see thee and thy affairs whole.

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author avatar Life Matters
26th May 2015 (#)

Writestuff, thank you for your insightful words. I am considering putting the lessons here, once I figure out how to program audio files in.

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author avatar Carol Roach
11th Jun 2015 (#)

wonderful, wonderful testimony

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author avatar Kingwell
14th Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you Life Matters for sharing inspiring article. I want to know more about this as I can understand how language really does matter. I hope you will continue to post about this. Please keep in touch -I don't want to miss it. Blessings.

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author avatar Life Matters
15th Jun 2015 (#)

article I'm not in missing the first one called peace matters passages 1 & 2.article.

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