Peace Matters - passage 1 & 2

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PEACE MATTERS: Teaching the Language of Peace to the World introduces the basic tenets of the language which is also know as Nonviolent Communication or NVC. This primer shows how learning to speak this way improves relationships, builds self esteem, and stops violent behaviors like bullying and emotional abuse.

UnPeaceful Language

I went to a peace meeting after 9/11. Afterwards, I was trying to get to know the hostess and mentioned that I was an educator and healer. I made some disparaging remark about some things healers did of which I did not approve.

“That is NOT a peaceful statement,” she roared at me angrily. I was shocked, stunned and embarrassed - and then I was suddenly aware that maybe she had a point. It was my first realization that language could be unpeaceful.

Relaying this conversation to my friends over the next few days provoked some intriguing and more unpeaceful responses:
• “Who does she think she is?”
• “How rude!”
• “How dare she criticize you!”
• “What makes her holier than thou?”

“Wait a minute… What if she is right?” I asked. “I made a statement, and it was not a peaceful statement. It was a judgment. Granted, her reply was not particularly peaceful, but let’s not miss the point... Are any of us speaking peacefully? Do we even know how?”

Peace is not the absence of conflict; it's the absence of inner conflict. ~ Unknown

Shortly thereafter, I heard Dr. Marshall Rosenberg speak. At that time I was in a life crisis and not knowing what to do. When I heard his wisdom, I saw a light at the end of my tunnel. I knew I had to learn how to use peaceful language, to reach the inner peace I sought. So began my journey.

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet.
Only through experience of trial and suffering
can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.

~ Helen Adams Keller

Why Should You Learn Peaceful Language?

Because it’s good for you!

Isn’t that what one of your parents would say? One of the many jobs parents and/or guardians hold is to teach you. But often times parents teach by imposing their worldview on you. This is called a power-over relationship, and it is one of the many forms of domination seen in the world today. How do we change this?

Can you imagine a world where “power-over” relationships were more balanced, and became “power-with” relationships? Are any of the following true for you?
• Are you longing for relationships where you are heard, understood and accepted, without criticism or judgment?
• Would you like to communicate your wants, needs and desires more freely and easier with your partner? Your friends? Your colleagues?
• Would you like to break the habits of thinking that lead you to feeling anger, guilt, shame and depression?
• Would you like to feel more appreciated, acknowledged and respected?
• Do you want your children or teenagers to mind you?

Improving your relationships is one of the very best reasons to learn peaceful language – because you will learn to listen and speak using words that will connect to the heart and soul of those around you. You will become more compassionate with yourself, and others. Your heart will open more fully.

The Language of Peace works. It starts with knowing who you are and how you want to be.

If people are only good because they fear punishment,
and hope for reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed.

~ Albert Einstein

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Compassion, Dorothy Ann Cole, Empathy, Language Of Peace, Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication, Peace Activists, Peace And Harmony, Peace And Quiet, Peace In Our Time, Peace Matters Free Lessons, Peace Research, Peaceful Life, Peacefulness

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author avatar Life Matters
Author of Peace Matters book and website (recently destroyed by hackers) offering 20 free lessons in the Language of Peace to the World. Holistic Healer, Educator, Biofeedback Practitioner

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author avatar Kingwell
14th Jun 2015 (#)

This is a good share. So happy that I found it and I will go on to read the second part. Blessings.

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